From losing weight to quitting smoking, many of us make resolutions going into the New Year.
But one expert believes that there’s an important resolution that should be included – having better sex.
Dr Justin Lehmiller, a social psychology expert, has posted a blog, encouraging people to resolve to have better sex this year.
Dr Lehmiller has also provided eight scientifically-backed tips to make sure you have better sex this year.
1. Be more vocal during sex
Studies have shown that people who make the most noise in bed tend to be met sexually satisifed.
Dr Lehmiller explained: “Moaning and groaning help convey what you like and what feels good – and by communicating this information to your partner, it increases the odds that you’ll get what you want.
“These noises signal appreciation for a partner’s efforts. Plus, they have the potential to enhance your partner’s sexual arousal.”
2. Experiment with sex toys
Dr Lehmiller suggests that experimenting with sex toys boosts not only sexual satisfaction, but also sexual functioning.
He said: “This is probably due, in part, to the fact that vibrators and other sex toys are an easy way of interjecting novelty and excitement into sex.”
3. Do your Kegels
Surprisingly, Kegel exercises, which involve strengthening your pelvic floor, can actually be carried out by men as well as women.
Dr Lehmiller said: “Studies have found that Kegel exercises offer a wide range of sexual benefits to women and men alike. Research suggests that Kegels also have the potential to both treat and prevent numerous sexual difficulties.”
4. Watch how much you drink
Another common resolution, limiting how much you drink, could help to boost your sex life.
Dr Lehmiller said: “Too much booze is a recipe for sexual problems. Being drunk can create a range of temporary sexual difficulties, such as making it harder to become – and stay – aroused and to reach orgasm. Excessive alcohol consumption can also impair sexual communication.”
5. Spoon after sex
Instead of going straight to sleep after sex, Dr Lehmiller suggests that couples should spoon instead.
He explained: “Research has found that, regardless of gender, the more time people spend on after-sex affection, the happier they are with both their sex lives and relationships.
“What this tells us is that it’s not just what you do during sex that matters; what you do afterwards is clearly very important, too.”
6. Focus on quality, not quantity of sex
While you might think that having more sex would make you happier, this isn’t the case in reality.
Dr Lehmiller said: “It’s not good when sex starts to feel like a chore, so don’t get too hung up on sexual frequency. Instead, focus more on making sure that the sex you’re having is good, which is something you can accomplish by adopting the other suggestions on this list.”
7. Touch each other more often
Non-sexual, intimate touch can also help to boost your sex life.
This kind of touch has been shown to promote relaxation, increase feelings of bondedness, and enhance communication.
8. Talk about your sexual fantasies
Finally, Dr Lehmiller suggests talking to your partner about your sexual fantasies, and maybe even turning some into reality.
He added: “Research has found that couples who talk about and act on their sex fantasies are more sexually satisfied. Likewise, research also reveals that women who share and act on their fantasies have more orgasms, which suggests that getting in touch with our fantasies just might help us to close the orgasm gap!”